I desire to be a woman of prayer – a woman of bold, powerful and unceasing prayer. Prayer is our best weapon and when we come to God, He hears us. I also desire to be a wife who prays for my husband. I want to be more intentional in this area as it’s something I can be improving in. You may say, “My husband is doing great, he doesn’t need prayer. He’s got a great job, he’s healthy and happy” but there is always room for prayer, so let’s make them a priority and be wives who pray for our husbands! I think it’s much too easy to give our husbands the leftovers in so many areas of life, but let’s not make this one of them.
So how should we pray for our husbands?
First, with a humble spirit. We may think that praying for our husbands is coming before the Lord with all of the things that we want to see “fixed”. It’s much easier to see those areas in someone else than it is to see our own faults. So before we begin praying for our husbands, we should ask God to reveal areas in ourselves that need need softening and refined. Friends, we aren’t perfect and we don’t have all the answers. We may think we know exactly what areas God needs to work out in him, but ultimately our desire should be for God’s will in our husband’s lives and not our own selfish gain. As believers, we are called to become more like Christ and that process is often painful as we are faced with our own sin and need for repentance, so we must prepare that the Lord will also be doing a work in us as we pray for them.
So what areas should we focus on as we pray for our husbands?
Their relationship with the Lord
As we begin to pray for our husbands we should ask God to draw their hearts to His. Ask Him if He would do a work in them and continue to do a work in order to make them more like Him. As Christian wives, we desire for our husbands to have a strong relationship with their Lord and Savior and to be in tune with the Holy Spirit so that all that he does flows out of his relationship with Christ.
Relationship with you
Praying for our marriages should also be at the top of the list. Because our marriages are a reflection of our relationship with Christ, we should desire for them to be holy and pleasing to Him. My husband and I pray for wisdom, protection and that we would be very intentional in our time together and in our communication with one another. When life gets so busy and hectic, it’s too easy to get down the road and realize that your spouse has become just a roommate or the person who helps take care of the kids. We need to strive to see our marriage for what God created it to be. Marriage is a gift! It is a covenant and that person is who God put in our lives for better or for worse, in good times and bad. Our marriage relationship should be second to our relationship with Christ, but it absolutely should come before the kids; this can feel impossible with all the needs that kids bring, but we should be asking God to help us make a priority of our marriage.
Hearts for their family and kids
There are so many things out there that are calling for our husbands attention and although some of these things aren’t always negotiable (like careers), there are other areas that are vying for their attention that may not be healthy. Praying for our husbands to be committed to our marriages and to be the best Dad that they can be to our kids is so important. We need more men who are committed to their wives and kids in this world so we must pray that their hearts would be committed to their families; desiring to lead us and pour into their families.
Vocation
Each person has a calling and purpose on their life from God. No person is without it and we should be praying that God would lead and fulfill our husband’s in the purpose He has for them. This area takes up a lot of our husband’s time so this should be an area that we are praying for. This is also an area that can cause a lot of stress so asking our husbands how we can be praying specifically in this area is important. When I’ve prayed for my husband’s job, I’ve seen God so specifically open and close doors and we’ve seen His guidance time and time again.
This is not an exhaustive list. Of course there are so many other areas to pray into and it will be dependent on your marriage and family specifically. But as we grow in this area of prayer, I also pray that we would have softened hearts toward our husbands and that we would trust what the Lord is doing in them. I pray that we would ask God to help us submit to their leadership and allow our husbands the room to grow into who God is making them to be. I sometimes wonder how often I’ve gotten in the way of my husband’s ability to lead our family and marriage because of my strong opinions. I’m thankful that God’s mercies are new each day and that He is continuing to do a work in me as He raises my husband up to be the man that He created him to be. It is such a gift to be in a marriage where God is the head.
Father, thank you for the gift of our husbands! I pray that as Christian wives we would pray fervently for our husbands. I pray that you would soften our hearts to see them as you see them. Break any pride and selfishness in us and I pray that we would allow our husbands the space to lead our marriages and families. Remind us that you have put them in this position and that you are growing them and doing a work in them and help us to trust you in the process. Lord, remind us that we are all in process. Help us to build our husbands up, to encourage them in truth and in who you made them to be. May we be wives that honor you, respect our husbands and love our families well. In Jesus’ Mighty Name, Amen.
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